THE REALITY OF DATING AS A WOMAN IN HER 30S

It’s not easy, but it doesn’t have to feel impossible –– here are 5 guidelines to consider featured on Coveteur.

DON’T MAP OUT YOUR TEN-YEAR PLAN

Building a life with someone involves sacrifice and work. Spouting out how many kids you want, where you’d like to live, or how much money you’d like to make is super aggressive for a first date and totally unacceptable to discuss. Leave the first few dates to the basics, like seeing if there’s actually any chemistry.

 

DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN YOUR WAYS

By the time we are in our 30s, we get stuck in our own routines. Maybe you prefer to go out on a date before 7pm, maybe you like to stay close to your hood, maybe you don’t like to eat dinner after 9pm… Whatever it is –– leave your habits at the door! Dating is all about being up for trying new things. You’ll have fun once you get out of your comfort zone –– trust us!

 

CONFIDENCE IS KEY. COCKINESS IS NOT.

There’s a different between confidence and cockiness. What’s so special about being in your 30s is that you’re more successful, you’re more sure of yourself, and you go after what you want without constantly questioning yourself. Confidence is one of the most desirable qualities you can have entering the dating game. But be sure your confidence doesn’t turn into cockiness. No one wants to marry arrogance.

 

GIVE THEM A CHANCE.

Chances are, most couples who you see strolling hand in hand didn’t have the most magical first date. Maybe not even the best second date. Oftentimes the best relationships are the ones that are slower to incubate. Don’t feel distressed if the angels aren’t immediately singing. If you’re unsure, always give them a second date, or even a third. Nerves can sometimes get the best of us, and you’ll be surprised how much they open up when they’re more comfortable.

 

SAY THANK-YOU AND TAKE INITIATIVE.

In our 20s, we always waited for them to be the first to reach out. You’re in your 30s now, and it’s time to step forward. Thank them for the date that night or the next morning. Wait for them to respond and ask you out again, but once they have, maybe you recommend a new spot you’ve been wanting to try. Let’s not let them do all the work—it’s sexy when someone else takes control.

 

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